Tess Holliday speaking out validates my struggle and challenges a societal misconception about Eating Disorders

Tess Holliday in Scary Mommy.com Article

Trigger Warning: this article contains descriptions of eating disorders and associated behavior that may not be suitable for all readers. Fearless community, please read with care.

For two decades, I believed because I wasn’t emaciated, and never had been, that I never really had an eating disorder.

Eating issues? Certainly. A weird set of rules and punishments associated with what I did or didn’t eat? Doesn’t everyone do that? The inability to eat in front of other people because I was so ashamed thinking was I too fat to be eating?

Well… I suppose that should have been a red…


Take time to master a few quick and easy elements if you want to get published

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So, you want a successful freelancing career?
Or maybe you’re looking to be paid for your passion?

Whether you’re guest posting or aiming for a staff writing position, there are a few key elements you must include in your pitches.

Just to make sure we’re covering all our bases, let’s real quick run through why you would pitch a magazine or online publication. What is a pitch?

Many times, when reading through submission/writer guidelines, editors will note you SHOULD NOT just send a pitch saying — I write about XYZ. Let me know what I can write for your publication.


They never said it out loud, but it’s clear people liked me better when I was sick

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Driving alone on the way home from running errands, I totally zoned out. Listening to the music and seeing the setting on the horizon in front of me, I wondered, wouldn’t this be the way to go?

For a brief moment, an intrusive thought reared its ugly head, and I pictured what it would be like to zoom full-speed into a tree. Could I stay focused on the music and the beautiful view before hearing the crash-boom-bang of metal against the tree? Would it hurt, or would it just be dark on impact?

The guilt and terror of even considering…


I finally feel at peace being able to understand why I am the way I am

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Growing up in a Catholic home and going to a Catholic grade school, two things about sex were made very clear from a young age.

  1. Sex is between a married man and woman.
  2. The purpose of sex is to procreate [have children].

That’s it. Those were the rules.

There was no discussion about consent, sexuality, or pleasure, because that’s just not how we rolled. Over expressions of intimacy in movies or TV shows were heretically inappropriate. …


Nail These 3 Habits And You’ll Be Well On Your Way

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Disclaimer: I’m going to say it upfront. There is no guarantee adopting these habits will make you rich. I can’t promise only these things will make you a full-time living writing. You will get out of this what you choose to put in.

Now.. with that out of the way, let’s begin.

I’ve never been a writer for other writers. My readers enjoy a poetic musing or an occasional personal essay highlighting the problematic expectations and narrative society has set for us.

I like to imagine the words written on the page read like a conversation you’d have with an…


3 things I need you to do before escaping an abusive relationship

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Trigger Warning: This essay contains discussions of abuse that may not be suitable for all readers. Your mental health comes first. Fearless community, please read with care.

Over the weekend, I was out of town from mid-Friday until late Sunday evening. Bright and early on Monday morning I received a message from one of my neighbors.

Hey! Just wanted to check in and make sure everything was okay?
We haven’t seen you around in a few days.

I texted her back and joked that there was no need to worry — I hadn’t turned into a Dateline Special.


May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Advocate for mental health and get paid while you do it.

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In case you missed it, May is Mental Health Awareness month.

Whether or not you personally suffer from a mental illness, likely someone you know does.

After all, according to NAMI, [National Alliance of Mental Illness]
“1 in 5 adults in the U.S. experience mental illness each year.”

The same goes for our friends across the pond.

The NHS states, [National Health Service in England]
“1 in 4 adults experiences at least one diagnosable mental health problem in any given year…Mental health problems represent the largest single cause of disability in the UK.”

And that was before the world-wide-event-of-which-we-do-not-speak.

Conversations around mental health can still be stigmatized, so the more often…


This day came much sooner than I expected

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I am a woman who has struggled to accept her body since being a preteen and is subsequently recovering from an eating disorder.

Since becoming a mother, I’ve worried about how my relationship with my body could impact my daughters. My biggest fear is the day one of my daughters tells me she doesn’t like her body.

That day came so much sooner than expected.

We were sitting down to dinner, like any other Tuesday, and nonchalantly the words rolled off my daughter’s tongue.

Mom, I hate my legs.

She didn’t pose it as a question. There was no hesitation…


Don’t be blinded by the love

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If there is one thing that’s predictable about a world in chaos, it’s that there will always be people, ready and willing, to take advantage of the vulnerable.

Over the past year, people have lost jobs, their homes, an entire way of life at alarming rates. We, the people of humanity, are in an unpredictable and incredibly vulnerable state.

Any opportunities to make quick cash or give us a sense of security we jump all over, even when it may be illogical under other circumstances. Unfortunately, it isn’t a surprise that romance scams reached a record high in 2020.

Per…

Estrella Ramirez

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