Kim, thank you so much for reading and engaging with this essay!

Every time I've been asked why didn't you just leave? Why did you stay? You're smarter than that... it continually added more layers of shame and guilt.

In some cases it may be intentional, but I think it is largely unintentional shaming that occurs because people can not possibly understand unless they've lived it.

Sending good vibes your way Kim.

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