I immediately felt like a child who had just gotten caught doing something terrible. This only worsened when she said, “… maybe we shouldn’t sleep with guys on first dates? Maybe that way they can learn to respect us first, while we learn to respect ourselves?”.
Mm. Maybe we should celebrate the fact that you are putting your wants and desires first..
Maybe making this choice after being in an abusive relationship (where you likely never did this for yourself, nor did you abusive partner) and having the courage to put yourself first is the best way to respect yourself?
I'm sorry that this was your experience, but I am so proud that you made the right choice for you. I feel this in so many ways.