PSA: It is okay to Reach for More
In January of this year, I read my first self-help book. This is noteworthy because all my life I’ve avoided sending out the vibe that I am broken, and certainly, engaging in self-help sent the clear message that I was (Please excuse my dramatic inner dialogue).
It said to me…you are not enough as you are.
It said to me… if you need self-help there is something inherently wrong with you that needs fixing.
Oh how wrong I was.
To describe the impact self-help has had on my life I can only compare it to Eve biting that damn apple. It opened my eyes, allowing me to see self-help in another light — as personal growth.
Personal growth is a beautiful thing. It allows us to never stop evolving, to never stop reaching for more. When I get on my soapbox about personal growth, I’m met with many arguments. Let’s talk about those concerns and help resolve reservations you might have about embracing personal growth.
‘Personal Growth’ is a myth peddled by con artists pretending to be Self-Help Gurus.
I understand this reservation on every level imaginable. This was the exact thought that crossed my mind each and every time I stopped by Barnes and Noble browsing the new releases for a good read. I’d pick it up, read the back summary, and roll my eyes (in that exact order, heavy emphasis on the eye roll). Really… these people will unlock my potential, if only I invest my time and money into reading their work. Oh okay…
The truth is, these people didn’t unlock my potential — I did that. Investing my time (and only the money required to buy the book) was worth while. It opened my eyes to what I was spending my time on, which was mostly contemplating on how I wasn’t where I wanted to be, instead of investing time in myself to get me where I was meant to be.
Personal Growth takes resources and opportunities that I don’t have access to.
“Talent is universal; opportunity is not.” — Rye Barcott
It’s an unfortunate truth that opportunities afforded to some, are not afforded to all. What is equal around the board is that each of us are blessed with unique talents and perspectives. Hustle is everything. The way you choose to leverage your talent is ultimately up to you. Embracing your talents and mastering them to your full potential, when you choose growth, that choice is one that will propel you forward. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
Why reach for more when I’m good with where I’m at?
But Holly, I thought about it, and I don’t need to hustle. I’m good where I’m at. I have a solid 9 to 5 and a roof over my head. I don’t need anything else.
Amen, dear reader, bless you for recognizing things to be grateful for in your life. Something to consider it that you can be grateful and count your blessings and still reach for more. You can continue to grow in your life, but it doesn’t mean that what you have isn’t enough. This was the most difficult question that I had to work through on my journey to accepting personal growth. I thought that by reaching for more, and growing, that I was being unappreciative of the blessings in my life.
You can make the choice to be good where your at, but if there is a goal or something you want to achieve before your time here is done, don’t be ashamed of reaching for more. Be proud, be empowered, and rise to the challenge.
What I hope that you take away from this, is that it is okay to reach for more. In fact, it is essential. Reaching for more doesn’t have to be in terms of money or a higher position at work. Reaching for more means doing what you need to do, to accomplish what is important to you.
Do you want to finish that book? Then make time for it. Do you want to work on your health? Make exercising and eating clean a priority. Do you feel like you’ve been neglecting your emotional and mental health? Make self-care a non-negotiable.
I empower you dear reader, to live your best life, live a life that you love.